I always joke that Abram is my second and third child. I got all his firsts twice. I got to watch him gain control over his tiny body, roll over, sit up, etc. All the firsts that parents look forward to, I got to see twice with my son.
I had a very normal pregnancy and birth with A. Nothing abnormal at all. He wasn't ever sickly, grew just like he was suppose to. He crawled at 4 months and by 7 months he was walking. I breastfed him and since I work full time he slept with us. Around 8 months old we (mostly I) decided that it was time for him to sleep in his crib and sleep through the night too. We used the same routine with A that we used with our Gen. My husband started getting up with A because he didn't equate Daddy with food. Things were going great and Mommy was sleeping though the night!
7 am December 3, 2009 our lives changed forever. You know the feeling you get when your baby sleeps though the night for the first time. You wake up, it's light out and your like OMGosh! Then you have this debate with yourself about why you slept though the night. Then you wake your hubby to go check the baby. The words you never want to hear were spoke that morning “Oh God, Jennie you gotta get your car. He's not moving.”
I rushed to the ER and by rushed I mean I turned a 45 minute drive into about 20. Then we waited... Our town is small and our hospital is small. The closest children's hospital is 110 miles away and we couldn't get an ambulance to come get us. We decided to drive him ourselves. The hospital was kind enough to keep my car seat, we folded the seats down in my SUV and laid him strapped to a board in the back of the car, hung his IV bag from the coat hook and we were off. It was the longest drive of my life!
At 9 pm on the 3rd after 4 hours of MRI and X-rays Abram was diagnosed with Acute Idiopathic Transverse Myelitis with lesions from C2 to T4. We spent 18 days in the children's hospital, 7 in PICU waiting, watching and wondering why he was still breathing. Then 11 days in Oncology. He gained 12 lbs from the steroids and possibly because all we did was nurse... We did 7 treatments of Plasmapheresis and still nothing.
He is completely paralyzed from the neck down. Couldn't make sounds couldn't move, nothing. Next came the hardest decision I will probably ever have to make in my live. They wanted to give my baby chemo. They handed me 2 pages of side effects and told me to let them know in the morning. I've never cried so hard in my life. I didn't tell a soul. The next morning the Dr's came in and took my baby away to hook him up to machines could change his life in so many ways and some of them real bad. We left the hospital 18 days later with a 5% chance of him ever walking or talking again. It was like having a 28 lb newborn all over again.
Abram turns 4 this week and though life has been a roller coaster for us he is amazing. In the 3 years since being diagnosed with TM he has regained all movement in his body although he can't feel anything on his right side and little on his left. The last MRI showed permanent spinal cord damage at C4 and T2 with continued swelling between the two points. He has days where he has to be on O2 because his muscles aren't strong enough to breath well if he is tired or sick.
He has a wheelchair for distances or when it's to dangerous for him to walk. We live life to the fullest every minute we can. We camp, I carry him in a hiking pack so he doesn't miss out on hiking, rides ATV's and LOVES trucks! Sure life has changed for us, I mean who ever thought I would have a Urologist, Neurologist and PM&R Specialist on my speed dial!